Dogs, People and Guests

Once again the lovely, the intrepid, the unique Jessica Aspen is guest posting on my blog. She has written several books and does an amazing job of getting them out for the world to see. Because she writes in paranormal, I wasn’t quite sure what to expect, but even an historical fiction devotee like me loved her books. They are shorter than HF but very satisfying. Check out the links below for more about this hard working writer.

As happy as I am to have Jessica here, I was a little worried when I read her title. Oh, no! Was this going to be about cleaning house? Rest easy, it’s not. And those of you who love pets will appreciate her lead-in. Enough talking from me.

Here’s Jessica!

Picking Up After Ourselves

10-22-2013 7-18-45 PM_editedI walk my dog nearly every day. Right now my usual walking trail has been flooded out, and so has the sign that says: “Please pick up after your dog.”

The post is held up only by a bundle of roots. The trash can and all the bags are gone, but the sentiment remains. We are expected to clean up after ourselves and our pooches even if the trail is gone. Even if there is no place to deposit the results. Even if we don’t want to clean up the mess.

Dogs don’t care what they do or where they do it. Okay, they have their own doggie rules and requirements but they do not coincide with our ideas of where it’s appropriate to do your business. So we pick up after them. It’s part of dog ownership. It’s part of dog life. We’d prefer they were like cats and use the litter box (or better yet, the potty) but they don’t. So we carry our little plastic bags and pick up after them so that the trails and parks do not become a health hazard.

It’s polite, and it’s the law, even if sometimes it’s inconvenient and we do it all as a matter of course. No stress, no whining, no yelling.

But what happens when I make a mistake?IMG_6120-1

Do I matter of factly clean it up with little to no emotion?

No! If I make a mistake there can be big time stress. Lots of whining. And hopefully no yelling.

I wail and whine and worry. I look at the horror of my mistake and wonder: What will people think? Will anyone notice? How can I hide it?

Everyone makes mistakes, but it’s how we deal with those mistakes that defines who we are. Okay, that sounds pretentious. (And it’s likely a quote from someone famous; remind me to look it up sometime.) But in every cliché there is a silver lining of truth. In real life we all make mistakes and if we get upset and don’t deal with them that can become a handicap.

Luckily, as a writer, I’ve learned that almost everything can be fixed. I have a handy tool in my computer. I can cut, paste, copy and erase. I can find a back-up file and reload the lost document. It’s all good. I can pick up after myself by picking myself up and starting over.

And sometimes, that’s exactly what it takes… starting over.

Sometimes the only fix is to pull on the big boots and get to shoveling. Clean it all out. And lay down a fresh foundation. So pull out your baggies and clean up after yourselves. No mistakes are bad, they all teach us something and they are almost all fixable in some way.

How do you deal with mistakes in your life? Does it depend on the size of it? Big mistakes don’t go away any sooner than little mistakes, sometimes they simply need more shoveling. How big is your shovel?

10-22-2013 7-28-38 PM_editedBio:

Jessica Aspen has always wanted to be spirited away to a world inhabited by elves, were-wolves and sexy men who walk on the dark side of the knife. Luckily, she’s able to explore her fantasy side and delve into new worlds by writing paranormal romance. She loves indulging in dark chocolate, reading eclectic novels, and dreaming of ocean vacations, but instead spends most of her time, writing, walking the dog, and hiking in the Colorado Rockies.


Author web links: (web, blog, twitter, facebook, goodreads, etc)



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An evil queen, a dangerous man, and a witch, tangled together in a tale of Snow White…


Desperate to save the last of her family from the murderous Faery Queen, Trina Mac Elvy weaves a spell of entrapment. But instead of a common soldier, the queen has released the Dark Huntsman, a full blooded fae with lethal powers.

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As the queen slides into insanity and her closest advisor makes plans to succeed to the throne, Logan secrets Trina away in the enchanted forest and makes a decisive move in his dangerous game of manipulation. But the gaming tables of fate turn on him, and when Trina’s life is threatened he discovers he risks more than his freedom…he risks his heart.

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9 thoughts on “Dogs, People and Guests

  1. Pingback: Picking Up After Ourselves on Elaine Cougler | JessicaAspenWrites

  2. Hmmmm…. so is it a mistake that dog’s have to poop? Lol. I get what you are saying though – mistakes are part of life, so we ought to figure out how to deal with them in the most efficacious and least annoying way.


  3. Elaine and Jessica, I love your blog on mistakes. I so agree with you about starting over if necessary, when a mistake is made. I’ have done that too many times than I care to remember, however, I never allow mistakes to hold me back, especially when it comes to writing. One reason it has taken several years to write my first novel, is because as a newbie a few years ago, I did not save my story.
    I finished writing my book (after slaving over it four years), and decided to take a break from writing for a few days. When I turned my computer it on to print it out, my computer had crashed and was as dead as the, proverbial, door-nail. Everything was lost, gone, kapootze. I cried for days and after some well chosen curse words, and my pity party, I decided it was time to rewrite my 300 pg story. I made up my mind, then and there, like everything I do when I make a mistake, it would not stop me, it would not steal my joy, and hopefully, my success. Three years later, I’m still re-writing, and editing and looking forward to having a publisher, pick me up.

    The story is so much better after picking up the poop, and starting over.


    • What an inspiring mistake story, Patricia. Losing all your story and then deciding that you would re-write it, wow! I have a picture of Scarlet O’Hara when Atalanta is burning. It takes determination and grit to start over when it’s all gone. Good for you!


      • Thanks Jessica, I love your analogy of Scarlet O’hara. I have to say, If I had red hair, I might fit her determination, but not quite. i do have a way of driving people crazy with my stubborness, however, always only for good results. I do know when to give up, but that doesn’t happen often either. :>)

        thanks for your thought provoking blog. It’s nice to meet you,



  4. I laughed all the way through this. Maybe I wasn’t supposed to, but I’m a girl who has a poop bag in every purse, every pocket and in the glove compartment of my car. The only time I got caught and yelled at, I ran out of poop bags while I was out and some man took it upon himself to string a lot a bad words at me. In the end I had to laugh, because I’m such a good poop picker upper. My mistake, only carried 2 poop bags and Farley had the poops. How many times can I say poop and smile. I know this is about writing, but you gave me a big smile this morning.


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